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Experiencing Lack of Interest in Making Love–

One Thing You Must Know About Parenting a Newborn

After giving birth, having sex is definitely NOT one of the top ten priorities in a woman?s head. Surprisingly, it may neither be in the new father?s mind. ?Why? Well, simply because sex takes energy, time, and concentration?all of which you must be short in supply as new parents.? How could your libido be up when you have to spend exhausting days and sleepless nights changing soiled diapers and attending to your newborn family addition?

If you have been experiencing lack of interest in making love since your child was born, do not fret.? This is definitely not a fatal disease, neither will it stay forever.? It is a normal fact about parenting a newborn.? The situation when sexual appetite is temporarily suppressed at the birth of a new baby is common especially during the immediate postpartum period.? Physically, sex is quite impossible yet for the new mom at this stage.

Never feel obligated to make love if it does not feel good ?physically and emotionally. Make Time your ally.? It will come too.? For women, the first time to have sex again after delivery may come with pain especially when she had an episiotomy or laceration.? Don?t worry, the stitches will eventually heal and everything will be back to normal in due time.

Taking care of a baby may be physically taxing.? However, a lot of emotions are involved in it too.? There is your little bundle totally dependent on you.? You bathe her, feed her, change her, rock her, and do everything for her.? Both you and your spouse may be going through some emotional whirl that can affect your sex life dramatically.? Take it easy and remember that it is all normal.? Setting aside your selfish desires is a fact about parenting a newborn.? The best thing you can do is communicate.? Tell your spouse how you are feeling and what you are thinking.? For instance, if you were the wife, you can tell your spouse how your laceration hurts or how uncomfortable your engorged breasts are.? If you were the husband, tell your wife how awkward you feel about making love with her with your baby in the same bed, or how afraid you are that you may aggravate her postpartum pains.? Communication is very important because it is only through it that you can define the problems and find solutions to them.

You can probably get a lot of parenting help from relatives and friends, but remember that the best help you can get is the one from each other.? You are in the boat together and no one else can understand you better.? Support each other.? Find ways on how you can make parenting a little easier and how you can find time to fill each other?s needs.? Do not worry because you will live, love, and make love again, with as much passion as ever.? And since shared parenthood often brings a couple closer together, you may find the flame of love not only rekindled but burning even brighter… just give it time.