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Gabriella and Kalifornia Parker
Lets Be Honest…
How many times have you thought or said, “I’m a terrible parent and I’m going to screw up my kids for the rest of their lives!”? Well, if you think you need to set up a therapy fund instead of a college fund, continue reading.
I have a best friend and I think she is the best mother in the whole world! I think she is always loving, kind and considerate, at all times, in all situations. (Now in reality, we know that superheroes just don’t exist.) But compared to her, I considered myself severely lacking in parenting skills and bordering on child abuse. I would even ask my children who was the bestest mommy in the whole world and expecting them to name my best friend as the winner by a mile. To my surprise, that didn’t happen. They would always reply, “You are, mommy!”. I just couldn’t fathom that they could love me that much when I messed up so often.
As I began to question my children’s rationale behind their answer, I started to look at myself through their eyes and not my own. I came to realize how forgiving children are. I don’t believe this forgiveness came by accident. (Nor do I think we should abuse it.) God definitely had a plan when he instilled this superhero ability into our children. He obviously knew that we, as parents, had the power to negatively alter their universe. So God equipped them with the perfect defense system. Through my children’s eyes, I am the best mommy in the whole world because they have the ability to forgive my human mistakes and love me through them.
I also read somewhere that “guilt is an excuse not to change”. So I decided to stop heaving piles of guilt onto myself for being a “terrible parent” and make some changes. I had to learn to accept the forgiveness my children freely gave and continue to strive to be the “good parent” that I wanted to be. I still make many mistakes, but at least now I am confident that I am not going to ruin my kids. I am a good mother, and I can always work towards being the best mommy in the whole world!
Gabriella Parker
8 Comments Received
September 25th, 2008 @2:06 pm
Wow great article! I love the fact that guilt is an excuse to not change I have never looked at it that way!
September 25th, 2008 @3:03 pm
You have very wise children, they know the “bestest” mommy when they see her.
Great Story!
September 25th, 2008 @3:51 pm
Thank you so much for sharing, your words are inspiring and a must read for most!!
I bookmarked this and emailed it to my friends, and they thanked me for showing them this article. You brightened our day with your words. Bless you
September 25th, 2008 @4:26 pm
Bingo! Often great insights take a while to bubble thru to our conscious self. Thanks for letting me see it! XOXO!
September 25th, 2008 @7:08 pm
Gabby,
That was great! I really liked it. Can’t wait to read more. Hope you and the kids are doing great.
September 28th, 2008 @4:08 pm
Nice post, and something I need to remember on a daily basis.
March 31st, 2009 @11:26 am
Gabriella, you have so much good commonsense, a need to research information and wisdom. When it comes to observing people
their uniqueness, needs, and individualism of each child….They are never to be graded against others in a classroom. They each have gifts that come out at their particular time. Rather than being judged, lazy and not up to their potential.
As they mature and start coming into their OWN.
Parents and teachers need to allow it, not shame them.
September 25th, 2009 @1:44 pm
Thank you so much for sharing, your words are inspiring and a must read for most!!
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http://www.goarticles.com/cgi-bin/showa.cgi?C=2017705
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